Toxic Relationships

Chyna Anderson, Lead Reporter

If you or someone you know has been subjected to a toxic relationship, whether it’s a parent or significant other, there are a few things you should know. Several people care deeply about you and wish to help in any way possible.

A great number of factors determine whether a relationship is abusive or toxic. For example if your parent or significant other refuses to listen when you speak, or constantly criticizes your actions (something as simple as how you eat or how you walk) chances are you live in a toxic relationship.

If your parent or significant other physically harms you and makes no effort to redress the situation, your relationship is toxic.

If the person you live with restricts your freedom to a degree that it resembles isolation, and feels the need to remove all things that bring joy to your life, you need to get out of that relationship immediately.

No one should be in a toxic relationship. It’s inhumane and unnecessary.

Anyone who continuously abuses the person they supposedly love deserves punishment. The best thing you can do for that person is get away.

Yes, leaving isn’t always the recommended option for most people. Some fear that it will lead to greater complications later on. Some even fear that they will end up right back in the toxic relationship they were in before.

However, keep in mind that most people don’t change. No matter how nice you are. No matter how compliant you try to be. No matter how much you talk to them… they will remain the same person that treated you unfairly.

Counseling helps, but it doesn’t solve all problems. Finding the underlying source of the abuse may seem constructive, yet it doesn’t wipe away the damage that person caused.

There is absolutely no excuse for being abusive. Treating others cruelly is a choice and a choice alone.

The most common excuse toxic people use is that they were treated that way during their childhood or past, therefore justifying their behavior. Does it justify them? It does not.

A person who was previously abused does not get a free pass to treat other people the same way. All this does is spread the hellfire they grew up with. It needs to stop immediately.

If you or someone you know is in a toxic or abusive relationship, just know that it’s okay to leave. Your absense will most likely help not just you or the person you know, but the abuser as well. Don’t let anyone convince you to remain in a toxic relationship until things “blow over”. It won’t. It hardly ever does.

Call the authorities.

Tell a teacher or another parent.

Tell a friend.

It’s okay to leave.